You’ve tried to stop before. This time, you don’t do it alone.
Online therapy for adults working through sex addiction, codependency, and trauma, with structured recovery frameworks that actually hold.
If you’re here, you’re probably exhausted. Maybe you’ve tried to stop before and couldn’t. Maybe you’re carrying shame about behaviors you can’t control. Maybe past trauma is running your present life.
Here’s what I know from 16+ years of clinical work and my own recovery: this pattern makes sense. Your brain is trying to protect you with tools that worked once but don’t anymore. Recovery isn’t about willpower, it’s about building new frameworks that support the life you actually want.
About D.J. Burr
I’m D.J. Burr. I help adults break free from sex addiction, trauma, and codependency using structured recovery frameworks that honor both your struggle and your strength, because real healing needs structure and honest connection, not just one or the other.
I’m a licensed therapist (LMHC, LPC) and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional with 16+ years of clinical experience, trained in EMDR. I’m also a published author, speaker, and podcast host. I identify as a Black, gay, cis-gender man, and I work from my own long-term recovery as much as my training.
I see clients online and am licensed in Washington, Oregon, Georgia, Vermont, South Carolina, and Virginia. I don’t accept insurance (here’s why), but I provide monthly superbills you can submit for out-of-network reimbursement.
Accomplished Author
Author of three books: I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Codependent, Sex and Love Addict, andLove and Joy: Tips, Tools, and a Plan for Dating in Recovery.
Reviews for I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Codependent, Sex and Love Addict:
“A book about sexual addiction can be a difficult sell. But anyone who has struggled to overcome compulsive behavior (and even those who have loved such individuals) should be able to relate to I JUST WANTED LOVE. This is partially due to the fact that author D.J. Burr, LMHC, NCC, S-PSB has not only lived through and overcome the problems of codependency and sexual addiction but, as a licensed therapist, specializes in working with individuals with the same issues. So not only is he equipped to clearly yet objectively explain the situation, but he also points out underlying similarities by for example, enumerating the various phases of predation, such when Kenny, a much older and married family friend starts “grooming” the author during his teenage years (Chapter One). This provides insight and sets the stage for compassion and understanding. Rather than focusing on the “bad old days” a common misstep in many such books about addiction–the author concentrates equally on recovery–more useful information for all parties.” — Judge, 23rd Annual Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Award
Click here to read more reviews and learn more about D.J. Burr’s published works.
Get the help you need
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Sex addiction
It’s not a willpower problem, and it’s not your fault. Together we’ll map your pattern, find what’s driving it, and build a recovery plan that fits your life. Individual and group therapy available.
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Codependency
If you’re so focused on everyone else’s feelings that your own get lost, therapy can help. We’ll work on boundaries, self-worth, and a relationship with yourself that doesn’t depend on rescuing anyone.
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Trauma
When something overwhelming in the past keeps interfering with your present, EMDR can help. It’s an evidence-based approach for PTSD, anxiety, depression, and the trauma that often fuels addiction.
Support your recovery. Empower your journey.
Between sessions, or while you’re deciding whether to start, D.J.’s digital guides give you something to work with. They cover dating in recovery, getting through urges, and rebuilding after a relapse, with practical tools and reflection prompts you can use on your own time.
Each one is written by a licensed therapist who has done this work personally. Use them day or night, at your own pace.
ABLE Affirmations
This powerful collection of 79 beautifully designed affirmation cards was created by therapist and author DJ Burr, based on over 13 years of counseling and lived experience. Each card is a calming, empowering reminder that you carry strength, clarity, and self-worth within you — even in your quietest moments.
Love and Joy: Tips, Tools, and a Plan for Dating In Recovery
Dating in recovery requires care, honesty, and a solid foundation. This guide offers tools, structure, and support for building healthy romantic connections while honoring your healing.
Chasing Dopamine At Night
Late-night hours can be some of the hardest in recovery—when your body is tired but your brain is searching for relief, stimulation, or escape. This digital support tool is designed to help you interrupt that cycle.
Breaking the Cycle
Breaking the Cycle is a direct, trauma-informed guide for individuals navigating the painful, often misunderstood journey of sex addiction recovery. Written by psychotherapist DJ Burr, this ebook offers practical tools, gentle reflections, and empowering truths for anyone ready to stop the cycle of secrecy, shame, and self-sabotage.
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