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About

Hi and welcome!

I’m D.J. Burr, and I support recovery and healing for individuals struggling with compulsive behavior. Such behaviors include sex addiction, pornography addiction, codependency, trauma, and mental health challenges that need to be addressed as part of the recovery process. Therapy is available in one-on-one and group settings.

I am a licensed mental health professional and certified clinical trauma professional with 13+ years of experience. I am trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) treatment and have experience in community mental health and crisis intervention. I am a published author, speaker, and podcast host. I identify as a black, gay, cis-gender male.

I am licensed in Washington, Georgia, Vermont, Florida, Virginia, South Carolina, and Oregon. I do not accept insurance (click here to read why), but do provide monthly superbills (an itemized statement).

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Education and credentials

  • MS, Argosy University, Atlanta
  • BS, Kennesaw State University in Georgia
  • Licensed in Washington State, Georgia, Vermont, Florida, Virginia, South Carolina, and Oregon.
  • Certified clinical trauma professional. 
  • Trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) treatment

Books and publications

  • I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Codependent, Sex and Love Addict. A roller coaster ride through childhood dysfunction, crippling addiction, and inspiring recovery.
  • Love and Joy: Tips, Tools, and a Plan for Dating in Recovery. The go-to resource to aid you in dating while in addiction recovery.
  • Podcast host — Journey On: Survivors Healing from Sexual Abuse & Assault. Click here to listen on Spotify. 34 episodes of survivor stories filled with hope, resiliency, and recovery. You are not alone.
  • Podcast host — Making An Addict. Click here to listen on Spotify. 21 episodes where Professionals and recovering addicts discuss addiction and recovery.
  • ABLE Life Recovery Affirmations — 56 card deck. Provides prompts for introspection, encouragement, and action.

Group and individual counseling

In addition to individual counseling, I run online therapy groups, including a Men’s Sexual Addiction Recovery Group, Codependence Group Therapy, and a group for Managing Anxiety and Depression for People in Addiction Recovery.

Recovery is possible

Compulsive behavior, sometimes referred to as sexual addiction, is a pattern of behavior characterized by an inability to control or stop engaging in sexual activities despite negative consequences. Individuals with this condition often experience a loss of control. Do you spend excessive amounts of time and energy seeking out sexual experiences, viewing pornography, or engaging in other sexual behaviors? You may have turned to compulsive sexual behavior, spending, debiting, gambling, or internet/video game addictions, to cope with life stresses.

Addiction is meant to make you feel less. It provides temporary numbing for lifelong pain. But when the numbing wears off, you feel trapped, depressed, angry, anxious, guilty, and afraid when you can’t stop.

Recovering from compulsive behavior, though not easy, is possible and has been accomplished many times. But it does require a complete change in beliefs and attitude, along with how to deal with life and its problems. Getting out of your head and taking action is the next indicated step. Listen to your mind and body — it’s time to stop treating yourself so badly. I can help you learn to help yourself. You can become your own best advocate.

Addressing trauma can help you recover from addictive behaviors

Trauma can play a significant role in the development and maintenance of compulsive sexual behavior. Traumatic experiences, such as childhood abuse, sexual assault, or other forms of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, can profoundly impact an individual’s emotional and psychological well-being. You may have turned to compulsive sexual behavior to cope with the pain, shame, and distress associated with your traumatic experiences.

Trauma and compulsive sexual behavior can create a complex cycle that can be very difficult to escape from. The addictive behavior may provide transient relief or escape from painful emotions but ultimately reinforces feelings of shame, guilt, and self-destructive patterns. Addressing the underlying trauma is often a crucial component of the recovery process. In therapy, we will seek to disrupt this cycle by addressing the traumatic experiences that fuel problematic behaviors. 

What you can expect to gain in therapy

Together, I can help you move towards:

  • Stopping unwanted compulsive behavior
  • Learning relapse prevention
  • Examining unprocessed trauma, grief, feelings of abandonment/neglect
  • Increasing positive communication about your needs/desires
  • Challenging faulty belief systems
  • Improving communication skills
  • Learning effective coping strategies
  • Increased self-esteem
  • Developing healthier relationships